Dear Student 323,

I’m kind of glad promposals weren’t a thing when I was in high school… It sounds like a lot of pressure! First, I would have a private conversation or make sure you know otherwise that the person you’re asking will say yes. What you do for the promposal and when can still be a surprise, but you don’t want to put yourself in an awkward or embarrassing situation if the person you’re asking says no, or put them in an uncomfortable situation where they feel pressured to say yes just because you prepared this whole promposal!

For the promposal itself, I think something that’s personal and thoughtful is best! It doesn’t have to be extravagant, but if it’s special to the person you’re asking, then that’s perfect.

Lastly, while of course it is nice to go to this milestone event with the person you’re dating or a close friend you really care about, if there are other readers out there who don’t have anyone to prompose to, it’s ok! It can actually be a lot of fun to go to prom with a group of friends. I reflect on my junior year when I went to prom with an acquaintance just because I felt the pressure of the societal norm of bringing a date, but I honestly think I would have had a better time unattached!

Good luck,